I believe you can learn to love anyone

I believe you can learn to love anyone.  Because you learn their quirks which you may at first not understand or like, but once you know where those quirks come from and you can sympathize with the other person for these quirks (See Imago Dialogue from couples therapy), they become points for you to feel empathy for the other person and I bet feeling empathy releases dopamine.  You also feel a sense of accomplishment about yourself (dopamine squirt) because you know what these quirks mean, how to handle the well, and you make the other person happy which makes you happy (after you have learned where the quirks come from, what motivates them, how they make the other feel and how you can handle in a way that makes you feel good vs. how the quirks originally made you feel which is probably bad)!  Making people happy gives you a dopamine squirt!